An "almost insurmountable" pain: Meghan Markle reveals to have had a miscarriage

27-11-2020 by Mirai

This Wednesday, November 25, the Duchess of Sussex published a column in the New York Times. With the desire to participate to break the taboo around this topic, Meghan Markle reveals to have had a miscarriage in July 2020.

The American actress, wife of Prince Harry, reveals that she had a miscarriage last July. Her moving text begins like this with a morning in July 2020, during which everything seemed to be going well: having breakfast, feeding the dog, taking vitamins, looking for a lost sock.

Unfortunately, the Duchess of Sussex will soon discover that not everything is going according to plan. While caring for her son Archie, Meghan Markle is in terrible pain.

"After changing her diaper, I had a severe cramp," writes the actress. "The moment I hugged my first son tightly, I knew I was losing my second."

Hours later, the Duchess of Sussex is in a hospital bed, holding tightly to her husbands hand. Wondering how they were going to get through this ordeal, Meghan Markle recalled a question that journalist Tom Bradby had asked her during the princely couples trip to South Africa. She had simply asked how she was doing. A question that had moved Meghan Markle a lot, since she was later attacked violently by the British press. "It was not the honest answer that helped me the most, but the question itself," she writes.

Sharing your pain to take a step towards healing

"Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable pain, lived by many but few people talk about. In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room with 100 women, 10 to 20 had suffered an abortion However, despite the incredibly common nature of this pain, talking about it remains taboo, fraught with (unjustified) shame that perpetuates a cycle of lonely grief, "laments Meghan Markle.

She notes that some "courageously shared their stories" and thus "opened the door, knowing that by telling the truth they would allow others to do so as well." "By being invited to share our pain, we take the first steps toward healing together," he says.

At a time of divisions of all kinds, both by the elections and by science, and as the end of the year holidays approach, the Duchess of Sussex invites everyone to ask how they are doing, because although we do not agree, "The truth is that we are all more connected than ever (to each other) because of everything we have suffered individually and collectively this year."

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