Psychological flexibility is the secret of a happy and fulfilled partner
To be happy as a couple, you would have to show emotional and psychological flexibility, reveals the Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science.
According to a new scientific study, published in the Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science, being psychologically and emotionally flexible is one of the most important factors in making a marriage last and having satisfying romantic and family relationships.
Conducted by two researchers from the University of Rochester (United States), this meta-analysis combined statistical results from some 174 studies that examined different factors that influence the life of a couple, such as mindfulness (full awareness) and the regulation of their emotions.
"Simply put, this meta-analysis highlights that being attentive and emotionally flexible in difficult situations not only improves lives, but can also strengthen and enrich their close relationships," summarized Ronald Rogge, professor of psychology at the University of Rochester. and co-author of the study.
What does it mean to be emotionally flexible?
Psychological flexibility is defined as a set of skills one uses when dealing with difficult or challenging thoughts, feelings, emotions, or experiences. These abilities include in particular the fact of:
be open to experiences, good or bad, and accept them, regardless of their level of difficulty;
being attentive and aware of the present moment throughout daily life;
experiencing thoughts and feelings without obsessing over them;
stay in tune with your core values, even on stressful days;
knowing how to project into the future and keep moving towards a goal, even in the face of setbacks or difficult experiences.
Researchers indicate that psychological rigidity, on the other hand, damages romantic relationships. Rather, this involves avoiding difficult thoughts, feelings, and experiences rather than facing and accepting them, and feeling overwhelmed by everything.
People who demonstrate inflexibility or psychological rigidity would thus be less satisfied both in the relationship and on the sexual level, less emotionally surrounded and more prone to aggression and attachment disorders.